Floating – The Key To Facing Adversity
Posted on 21 April 2009
All of us go through tough times in life. Whether they come in the personal relm through interactions or situations your forced to deal with in the workplace. There will always be situations which we dislike and would prefer to run from.
This also rings true to your fitness goals. There will be times you question what your doing or feel as if you can’t go on. Its how you deal with these emotions and how you get on with things that counts.
How to Float
Sometimes you will just feel bad, uncomfortable and unsure of what to do. Any of these times are an opportunity to practice your skills in dealing with adversity. Relax into the situation and accept how you feel at the time. Imagine yourself as weightless and free able to do what you please. No one ever felt bad when relaxed or at peace with the world.
Step 1 – Accept the way you feel at the moment. It maybe that your confronting a boss or difficult collegue about some unsolved issue. It is normal to feel emotions like fear, anger, and anxiety and don’t be bluffed if these emotions start to manifest themselves physically. You may feel antsy, shaky or like running. These are all normal symptoms of fear and they will do no harm, they cannot get any worse and always strike with the most power to start. It is all caused by excess adrenaline and will eventually burn out.
Step 2 – Have a plan of action. Once you know what your going to say or do then everything will be alright, you will not forget on the spot or be crushed by fear. Everything will be fine and remember we always make things out to be worse than they are.
Step 3 – Floating. Roll with the punches don’t fight what is happening just let things flow right through you. If the interaction/situation is not going the way you want or thought it would don’t fret. Let it be, even start to imagine yourself easily dealing with whatever comes your way with ease and comfort. I know this sounds childish but it really works. Once you realize that the only way to gain satisfaction and feel good is to get the job done you will find things far easier.
Inactivity And The Art of Letting Go
Sometimes in life its best just to let go and relax. Have you ever noticed that after a hard days work no matter how stressed out you were or are, that things just don’t matter anymore. You will be quite happy to just get home, eat, sleep and relax. Leaving all your worries in the dust. This is thanks to be too tired to care. You have given up the struggle and are happy to just get on with life as you should not worrying about the small things that would wind you up when full of energy earlier in the day.
This is how you can feel all the time. Much of our pain and sorrow or worries are caused by perpetual fighting. Fighting the way we feel, what others say and many many other things that are beyond our control. You don’t have to strive for relaxation, You have to Wait for it!
If your tired rest. If your Hungry eat. If your bored get out and do something constructive.
If you follow those rules you can’t go too far wrong in life. I guess the point of this post is to help you get through some of the tough times we all experience nearly everyday. I feel we all have more strength within us than we could ever imagine, If we can learn to relax and ease into things we can all deal with anything that is thrown our way no matter how much fear or apprehension we have had about it in the past.
“When a dog runs at you, whistle for him.”
I also liked this which I found when reading some of “When Things Fall Apart” by Pema Chodron
Once there was a young warrior. Her teacher told her that she had to do battle with fear. She didn’t want to do that. It seemed too aggressive; it was scary; it seemed unfriendly. But the teacher said she had to do it and gave her instructions for the battle.
The day arrived. The student warrior stood on one side, and fear stood on the other. The warrior was feeling very small, and fear was looking big and wrathful. They both had their weapons. The young warrior roused herself and went to fear, prostrated three times, and asked: “May I have permission to go into battle with you?”
Fear said: “Thank you for showing me so much respect that you ask permission. “Then the young warrior said: “How can I defeat you?”
Fear replied: “My weapons are that I talk fast, and I get very close to your face. Then you get completely unnerved, and you do whatever I say. If you don’t do what I tell you, I have no power. You can listen to me, and you can have respect for me. You can even be convinced by me. But if you don’t do what I say, I have no power.”
In that way, the student warrior learned how to defeat fear.
I ended up rambling a bit but I hope some of the stuff in the post can help you deal with adversity or face the things you fear……
